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Take this quiz about the behavior of the narcissist in your relationship. It addresses the way he is likely to behave in an established relationship, rather than in one that is new and just developing. Your answers will help you identify whether you are involved with a narcissist.
Does this person seem charming at the beginning when dealing with new people? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person make frequent bids to be the center of attention? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person seem vibrant when in performance mode? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
When left in charge of a conversation, is his only topic his accomplishments, activities, or opinions? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person seek out high profile people to be around? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person lack social savvy? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person disregard negative consequences of insisting on being right or having it his way? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person get angry when you or others get angry, diverting attention from the matter at hand? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person make agreements he doesn't keep? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person neglect to share changed agreements with affected parties? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person put on a good show to superiors, while being difficult with peers or underlings? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person fail to apologize when it would be appropriate to do so? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person seem to feel easily disrespected and get upset over it? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person take credit when things go well and point fingers when they don't? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person prefer to be in control and micromanage, or conversely, fail to manage? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person seem clueless about the impact he has on people and projects? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person use contempt as a tool? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person rely on fear and intimidation tactics to motivate people? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person seem to believe he's super competent, really smart, totally indispensable? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person do what's best for himself, not necessarily the team or the company? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person get highly defensive if questioned? Go on the attack if he feels threatened? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you get surprised that your time has been committed without your awareness? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you have to be the one to handle people issues that arise due to this person? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you avoid this person as much as possible? Or conversely, take pride in being the "fixer"? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you know how to provide strokes that keep this person happy? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you realize that your viewpoint gets ignored or dismissed unless you are agreeing? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you find that conflict can easily get unpleasant, even nasty (or violent)? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you find it easier to pick up the slack than try to get him to handle things? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you feel bruised by this relationship? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you get angry frequently in response to this person? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you feel ineffective? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you get surprised when things unfold differently than agreed to? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you find yourself fantasizing about revenge? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you find yourself irritable, depressed, burnt out, exhausted or developing stress related health problems? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you shrink when you need to deal with this person? Or need to steel yourself? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you wonder why management can't see there's a problem? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you feel hopeless? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
How many eyes does a typical person have (e.g: 4)?