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Take this quiz about the behavior of the narcissist in your relationship. It addresses the way he is likely to behave in an established relationship, rather than in one that is new and just developing. Your answers will help you identify whether you are involved with a narcissist.
Does this person charm newcomers? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person engage in new relationships quickly and easily? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person light up when praised? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person seem most vibrant when in performance mode? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person have a tendency to bring conversations back around to his latest activities, interests, opinions, or achievements? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person want what he wants regardless of the consequences? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person get angry when you express your own anger or dissatisfaction, thereby diverting attention away from your feelings and toward his own? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person forget or dismiss things you've shared that are important to you or about you? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person do what suits him regardless of agreements you've made, or social/workplace norms? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person fail to apologize for upsetting behaviors, or when he does apologize, seem insincere? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person neglect to maintain a network of friends outside of work or one important hobby? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person have trouble imagining what it's like to be in someone else's shoes? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person withdraw communication or physically isolate when criticized, or when he feels criticized? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Does this person seek frequent assurances of your physical whereabouts when discontent? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you find that this person makes plans without including you in the process? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you realize that you are the one to start the conversation if there are issues between you that need to be addressed? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you find that you avoid conflicts with this person because when you stand up for yourself it leads to aggravation? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you realize that your viewpoint gets ignored or dismissed? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you notice that you are skeptical about relying on agreements that he makes? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you find that it is easier to relinquish the spotlight to this person rather than try to share it? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you notice that you are really good at taking care of things, picking up the slack? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you put up with relationship problems because you have hope? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you find yourself somewhat confused about what you want for yourself? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you notice you are skilled at getting along with people generally considered difficult by others? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you feel ineffective in this relationship? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you feel that your conversations about logistics are often thwarted? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
Do you get frustrated that this person doesn't take care of things you expect him to do? Never Seldom Occasionally Usually Always
How many legs on a typical dog? (e.g: 5)