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Take this quiz about the behavior of the narcissist in your relationship. It addresses the way he is likely to behave in an established relationship, rather than in one that is new and just developing. Your answers will help you identify whether you are involved with a narcissist.


Does this person seem charming at the beginning when dealing with new people?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person make frequent bids to be the center of attention?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person seem vibrant when in performance mode?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

When left in charge of a conversation, is his only topic his accomplishments, activities, or opinions?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person seek out high profile people to be around?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person lack social savvy?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person disregard negative consequences of insisting on being right or having it his way?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person get angry when you or others get angry, diverting attention from the matter at hand?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person make agreements he doesn't keep?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person neglect to share changed agreements with affected parties?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person put on a good show to superiors, while being difficult with peers or underlings?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person fail to apologize when it would be appropriate to do so?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person seem to feel easily disrespected and get upset over it?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person take credit when things go well and point fingers when they don't?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person prefer to be in control and micromanage, or conversely, fail to manage?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person seem clueless about the impact he has on people and projects?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person use contempt as a tool?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person rely on fear and intimidation tactics to motivate people?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person seem to believe he's super competent, really smart, totally indispensable?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person do what's best for himself, not necessarily the team or the company?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Does this person get highly defensive if questioned? Go on the attack if he feels threatened?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you get surprised that your time has been committed without your awareness?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you have to be the one to handle people issues that arise due to this person?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you avoid this person as much as possible? Or conversely, take pride in being the "fixer"?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you know how to provide strokes that keep this person happy?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you realize that your viewpoint gets ignored or dismissed unless you are agreeing?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you find that conflict can easily get unpleasant, even nasty (or violent)?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you find it easier to pick up the slack than try to get him to handle things?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you feel bruised by this relationship?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you get angry frequently in response to this person?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you feel ineffective?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you get surprised when things unfold differently than agreed to?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you find yourself fantasizing about revenge?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you find yourself irritable, depressed, burnt out, exhausted or developing stress related health problems?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you shrink when you need to deal with this person? Or need to steel yourself?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you wonder why management can't see there's a problem?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

Do you feel hopeless?
Never
Seldom
Occasionally
Usually
Always

How many legs on a typical dog? (e.g: 5)